Jos uvek mi je hladno

„Majčinska fuzija“ predstavlja situaciju u kojoj majka i dete imaju veoma blizak, gotovo preterano vezan odnos, gde dete postaje centar majčinog sveta, a majka očekuje da dete ispunjava sve njene emotivne potrebe i pruža joj jedinu ljubav i podršku u životu. Ova veza može biti toliko snažna da dete teško stvara sopstveni identitet i zdrave granice, jer je preplavljeno majčinim potrebama.

Ovakav oblik ljubavi može biti veoma problematičan i nesrećan, kako za majku, tako i za dete. Majka može postati emocionalno zavisna od deteta, što joj otežava da uspostavi zdrave odnose sa drugima i vodi sopstveni nezavisan život. S druge strane, dete može osećati teret odgovornosti za majčinu sreću i biti frustrirano jer ne može zadovoljiti sve majčine potrebe, što može dovesti do osećaja bespomocnosti i nesposobnosti.

Ova vrsta ljubavi bazirane na transakciji, gde majka koristi dete da bi zadovoljila svoje emotivne potrebe, može biti izuzetno nesrećna i nezdrava, jer ne postoji prava ravnoteža i uzajamnost. Umesto da odnos bude zasnovan na ljubavi, razumevanju i podršci, postaje jednosmerna veza u kojoj se dete oseća iskorišćeno i zapostavljeno.

Važno je da majka i dete postepeno razvijaju zdrave granice i nezavisnost kako bi mogli da ostvare ispunjujuće i funkcionalne odnose sa drugima, van ove emocionalne zavisnosti. Takođe, terapija ili podrška stručnjaka može biti korisna kako bi se prepoznali i rešili problemi u ovakvom odnosu.

U idealnom slučaju, majčinska ljubav treba da bude puna ljubavi, pažnje i podrške, ali isto tako da dozvoli detetu da raste i razvija se kao samostalna osoba sa sopstvenim identitetom. Harmoničan odnos majke i deteta treba biti osnova za dalje formiranje zdravih i ispunjavajućih odnosa tokom celog života.

Stoga se nalazimo cesto u paradoksu: napolju je uvek hladno kad majcinska fuzija i dalje greje. Kontrast napolju i unutra je preveliki. Zagrejati svu okolinu je nemoguce. Jedini recept je da se dopbro obuce „svojom ljubavlju“ kad se izlazi u hladni svet. Mozda i nije toliko hladan.

Kompleks zadovoljavaca tudjih potreba (tzv. people pleaser)

Pisanje o kompleksu zadovoljavaca tuđih potreba (people pleaser) može biti zanimljivo istraživanje ljudskog ponašanja i posledica potiskivanja sopstvenih potreba i želja kako bismo udovoljili drugima. Izraz „zadovoljavac tuđih potreba“ se odnosi na osobe koje prioritet stavljaju na zadovoljavanje tuđih potreba, često na štetu sopstvenog blagostanja i granica.

Kada stalno pokušavamo da izbegnemo konflikte tako što ispunjavamo potrebe drugih, dešava se zanimljiva pojava: senka aspekt naše ličnosti se gura u stranu. Ova senka predstavlja delove nas koje se stidimo, ne želimo priznati ili zanemarujemo. Slično kao što smo zaboravili da pozovemo 13-u vilu na rođendanu Trnoružice, možemo zaboraviti da pozovemo i uključimo senku aspekt, što može izazvati osećanja rezignacije, bola i na kraju senka postaje hipertrofisana i pojačana.

Kako senka aspekt postaje jači, postaje teret koji čeka dok više ne može da bude potisnut. Nagomilava se ispod površine i na kraju, kada više ne može biti zadržan, eksplodira. Ova eksplozija može se manifestovati na različite načine, kao što su izlivi besa, osećaj beznađa ili čak fizički simptomi izazvani potisnutim emocijama.

Metafora 13-e vile na rođendanu Trnoružice ilustruje kako zanemarivanje ili odbacivanje delova nas samih, poput senke, može imati značajne posledice. Baš kao što je važno pozvati i priznati sve aspekte sebe, uključujući i senku, takođe je važno postaviti zdrave granice i prioritetizovati sopstvene potrebe dok istovremeno pokazujemo empatiju i razumevanje za druge.

Razumevanje i suočavanje sa kompleksom zadovoljavaca tuđih potreba podrazumeva učenje da se afirmišemo, komuniciramo svoje potrebe i pronađemo ravnotežu između brige za druge i brige za sebe. Bitno je prepoznati da briga o sebi nije sebičnost i da to može dovesti do zdravijih i autentičnijih odnosa sa drugima.

Priznavanjem prisustva naše senke i integrisanjem njenih aspekata u našu svest, možemo voditi ispunjeniji život i razvijati dublje veze sa drugima zasnovane na iskrenom razumevanju i uzajamnom poštovanju.

Uzrast mog unutrasnjeg deteta i uzrast tvog unutrasnjeg deteta moraju biti uravnotezeni

Tema o unutrašnjem detetu u partnerskim odnosima može biti veoma zanimljiva i korisna za razumevanje dinamike međuljudskih odnosa. Unutrašnje dete predstavlja emocionalni deo nas samih, koji se razvija tokom detinjstva i često zadržava uticaj na naše odrasle živote i partnerske veze.

Kada govorimo o uravnoteženju uzrasta unutrašnjeg deteta u partnerskom odnosu, tu se zapravo referiše na nivoe emocionalne zrelosti i ranijih iskustava koja su oblikovala to unutrašnje dete. Idealno, partneri bi trebali biti u sličnoj generaciji unutrašnjeg deteta, jer to može olakšati razumevanje i međusobnu podršku. Kada su partneri u sličnim emocionalnim fazama, lakše je deliti slične perspektive i obrasci ponašanja, što čini odnos skladnijim.

Kada su partneri iz različitih generacija unutrašnjeg deteta, poput situacije „roditelj-dete“, mogu postojati izazovi u komunikaciji i razumevanju. Stariji partner može preuzeti ulogu „roditelja“ u odnosu prema mlađem partneru, što može dovesti do neravnoteže moći i osećaja nedoraslosti kod mlađeg partnera. Međutim, i ovakvi odnosi mogu biti funkcionalni ako partneri svesno i aktivno rade na otkrivanju i rešavanju ovih dinamika.

Najveći izazov se može pojaviti kada je razlika u generacijama unutrašnjeg deteta između partnera oko pola generacije (npr. 16 godina i 9 godina). U ovom slučaju, moguće je da će partneri imati različite životne prioritete, potrebe i nivoe emocionalne zrelosti. Ovo može stvoriti konflikte i osećaj neslaganja. Međutim, to ne znači da takav odnos ne može funkcionisati. Važno je da se partneri otvoreno razgovaraju o svojim potrebama i osećajima, budu spremni da razumeju jedno drugo i zajedno rade na pronalaženju kompromisa i rešenja koja će zadovoljiti oboje.

Ključna stvar u bilo kojem partnerskom odnosu je komunikacija i razumevanje. Ako partneri aktivno rade na razumevanju i podršci jedno drugom, može se prevazići većina izazova, bez obzira na razlike u generacijama unutrašnjeg deteta. Otvoren i empatičan dijalog može pomoći u stvaranju jakog i zdravog partnerskog odnosa, bez obzira na težinu koju generacijske razlike unutrašnjeg deteta mogu imati.

Kreativnost se radja iz odnosa

Ovaj koncept ima osnove u mnogim umetničkim i naučnim praksama i može se dublje razumeti kroz različite perspektive:

Interakcija s drugim ljudima i okolinom može biti inspirativna i podsticajna za kreativni proces. Deljenje ideja, razgovor, izazivanje, ali i slušanje drugih može doneti nove perspektive i podstaći stvaranje novih koncepta ili rešenja.

Kada više kreativnih uma radi zajedno, može se stvoriti sinergija koja ideja i energija diže na viši nivo. Ovaj sinergijski efekat može dovesti do stvaranja nečega što pojedinačno ne bi bilo moguće. Razmena energije i ideja u grupi može stvoriti „zajedničko energetsko polje“ koje hrani kreativni proces.

Priroda ima duboku vezu s kreativnošću i često je izvor inspiracije za umetnike i naučnike. Posmatranje prirode može probuditi maštu, a prirodni obrasci i fenomeni mogu poslužiti kao modeli za nove ideje i inovacije.

Odnos prema sopstvenoj unutrašnjosti, introspekcija i razumevanje sopstvenih emocija i misli takođe mogu biti kreativni podsticaj. Umesto da gledamo spolja, ponekad je potrebno okrenuti se unutra kako bismo otkrili nove dimenzije stvaralaštva.

Kroz povezanost i odnos s okolinom, drugim ljudima, prirodom i sopstvenom unutrašnjošću, stvaraju se osnovni uslovi za kreativnost. Međutim, važno je napomenuti da kreativnost takođe može nastati iz samoće, introspekcije i dubokih ličnih iskustava (dakle, takodje iz odnosa, ali iz odnosa svoh Ego.kompleksa sa svojim ostalim kompleksima uz „malu“ pomoc Sopstva i osovine Ego-Sopstvo).

    Persona kod umetnika i Persona kod naučnika

    Moja hipoteza je da nauka polazi od stava: „to je sto je, to je takvo kakvo je“, dok je umetnost interpretirajuca: „ja vidim, opazam i i zatim unosim svoje bice u krajnji sud onog sto je opazeno“. To vodi ka koriscenju razlicitih delova persone kod naucnika i umetnika. Prvi se redukovati uticaj svog ego-kompleksa, dok ce drugi voditi racuna o balnsiranoj proznosti granice izmedju spoljasnjeg i unutrasnjeg. Evo, da objasnim detaljnije:

    Ako analiziramo njihove različite pristupe i načine razmišljanja, možemo bolje razumeti kako se forma izražavanja i kreativnost razlikuju u ovim sferama.

    Najpre, kod naučnika:

    Naučnici se fokusiraju na objektivnost i posmatranje sveta kroz prizmu činjenica i dokaza. Njihova persona je često usmerena na razvoj metodičnog pristupa istraživanju i pokušaju da minimiziraju uticaj sopstvenih emocija i subjektivnih interpretacija. Cilj naučnika je da otkrije objektivnu istinu koja je ista za sve i nezavisna od individualnog iskustva.

    U tom smislu, naučnici se trude da se oslobode uticaja svog ego-kompleksa i ličnih pristrasnosti koje mogu narušiti neutralnost u istraživanju. Umesto da unose svoje lične sudove, oni se trude da rezultate baziraju na empirijskim podacima i objektivnim merenjima.

      Zatim, kod umetnika:

      Umetnici se bave interpretacijom i subjektivnim doživljajem sveta oko nas. Njihova kreativnost proizilazi iz unutrašnjeg doživljaja i individualnog izraza. Umetnost je često kanal za izražavanje emocija, ličnih iskustava i imaginacije. Umesto da slepo prate činjenice, umetnici obraćaju pažnju na svoje unutrašnje iskustvo i zatim ga transformišu u svoje stvaralaštvo.

      Umetnici koriste različite delove svoje ličnosti kako bi stvorili dela koja izražavaju njihovu jedinstvenost. To može uključivati intuiciju, emocije, pa čak i nesvesne elemente. Umetnost je često interpretacija sveta iz ugla umetnika, što može stvoriti širok spektar izraza i stilova.

        Umetnici često pažljivo balansiraju granicu između spoljašnjeg sveta i unutrašnjeg doživljaja. Njihova Persona omogućava im da oblikuju stvarnost na jedinstven način, unoseći svoju subjektivnost u delo. Ova ravnoteža između spoljašnjeg (stvarnog) i unutrašnjeg (subjektivnog) omogućava umetniku da stvori dela koja su bogata dubljim značenjem i emocijama.

        Sa druge strane, naučnici se trude da zadrže distancu i posmatraju svet spolja, oslanjajući se na činjenice i dokaze. To omogućava stvaranje objektivnog znanja koje nije opterećeno individualnom interpretacijom.

          Ova hipoteza o različitim delovima persona kod naučnika i umetnika može nam pomoći da bolje razumemo različite načine izražavanja i razmišljanja u ovim oblastima. Ove razlike doprinose bogatstvu ljudskog iskustva, jer nam omogućavaju da sagledamo svet iz različitih perspektiva i shvatimo da je kreativnost i istraživanje moguće na više načina.

          Nema destrukcije

          Cesto razmisljam, dok diskutujem sa razlicitim osobama, kako u psihi nema gubljenja, sve je neprestano dodavanje, trasnformacija i prelazak iz jednog „agregatnog stanja“ u drugo. Razmatranje psihe kao kumulativne, gde nema destrukcije i sve što je ikada postojalo, čak i kao misao ili osećaj, ostaje sačuvano negde u kolektivnom nesvesnom, može otvoriti mnoge duboke i zanimljive perspektive.

          Najpre, mozemo li reci da je psiha kumulativne prirode? Pretpostavka da psiha funkcioniše kao kumulativna ima duboke veze sa Jungovim konceptom kolektivnog nesvesnog. Prema Jungu, kolektivno nesvesno je sloj nesvesnih iskustava i arhetipova koji su zajednički svim ljudima, prelazeći individualne granice. Ovo kolektivno nasleđe oblikuje naše ponašanje, snove i simbole.

          U kumulativnom modelu psihe, sve naše individualne i kolektivne misli, osećaji i iskustva ostaju zabeleženi i doprinose našoj celokupnoj psihi. Ništa se ne gubi, već se nadograđuje na prethodno postojano, oblikujući nas kao jedinstvene individue u kontekstu univerzalne svesti.

          Unutar kumulativnog modela psihe, važno je razumeti dvostruku prirodu svesti i nesvesti. Svest predstavlja ono što smo trenutno svesni, dok nesvesno obuhvata skriveni deo našeg uma, uključujući i ono što smo zaboravili ili potisnuli. Ovo nesvesno može sadržavati i iskustva i sećanja koja nismo svesni, ali koja i dalje oblikuju naše ponašanje i emocije.

          Kumulativna priroda psihe otvara vrata za razumevanje duboke povezanosti između ljudi i univerzuma. Ideja da sve što postoji ostaje prisutno u kolektivnom nesvesnom sugeriše da smo svi povezani putem nevidljive mreže zajedničke svesti. Takođe, simboli i mitovi, koji imaju univerzalne značenja i prisutni su u različitim kulturama, takođe podržavaju ovu ideju o povezanosti i kumulativnoj prirodi psihe

          Naravno, ovo moze imati interesantne implikacije za lični razvoj. Razumevanje psihe kao kumulativne može imati značajne implikacije za lični razvoj i samoprihvatanje. Kada shvatimo da ništa što smo ikada doživeli nije izgubljeno, već se nadograđuje na našu unutrašnju arhitekturu, možemo se bolje nositi sa traumama i izazovima života. Rad na osvešćivanju nesvesnih sadržaja i razumevanju njihove simbolike može doprineti celovitosti i samospoznaji.

          Jungijanski kompleksi kao udice naseg prepoznavanja

          Jung je razvio je koncept kompleksa. Kompleksi su emocionalni obrasci i sklonosti kojima oblikujemo naš identitet. Oni su skupovi povezanih misli, emocija i iskustava koje često potiču iz nesvesnih dubina naše psihe. Kroz razumevanje i osvešćivanje ovih kompleksa, možemo bolje razumeti sebe i svoje ponašanje.

          Udica našeg prepoznavanja predstavlja kako se ovi kompleksi mogu uhvatiti i oblikovati našu percepciju stvarnosti. Kada smo nesvesni svojih kompleksa, oni mogu uticati na način na koji doživljavamo svet oko sebe. Ovaj fenomen je posebno zanimljiv jer može biti teško razlikovati stvarnost od naše projekcije.

          Roboti, kao veštački entiteti, nemaju nesvesnu psihu i emocionalne obrasce kao što ih imaju ljudi. Oni funkcionišu na osnovu programiranja i veština veštačke inteligencije. Dakle, roboti ne razvijaju komplekse, što znači da njihove reakcije i ponašanja ne dolaze iz duboko usađenih emocionalnih obrasci.

          Ljudi, s druge strane, obdareni su bogatom emocionalnom sferom i nesvesnim procesima koji utiču na njihovo ponašanje i osećanja. Ovi kompleksi mogu biti odgovorni za različite aspekte ličnosti, kao što su osećaj inferiornosti, superiornosti, krivice i slično. Razumevanje ovih kompleksa može nam pomoći da razvijemo svest o svojim unutrašnjim procesima i postanemo različite verzije sebe.

          Razumevanje i osvešćivanje svojih kompleksa omogućava nam da rastemo i razvijamo se kao individue. Rad na razrešavanju konflikata koji proizlaze iz ovih kompleksa može doprineti ličnom rastu i samopouzdanju. Kada postanemo svesni svojih nesvesnih sklonosti, postajemo sposobni da donosimo svesnije odluke i postupamo na način koji bolje odražava naše autentično Ja.

          U tom smislu, svako iskustvo prepoznavanja i rad na svojim kompleksima može nas transformisati i dovesti do novih verzija nas samih. Svestan pristup ovim emocionalnim obrascima može nas osloboditi od njihovih ograničenja i omogućiti nam da živimo autentičnije i ispunjenije živote.

          Review of: Why Existence? An Explanation with No Remainder

          taken from: https://doi.org/10.32388/2UZGCY

          Review of Sanford Drob’s article: “Why Existence? An Explanation with No Remainder1 (original: https://www.qeios.com/read/CX22GR)

          Dragana Favre

          MD, PhD, Psychiatrist and Analytical Psychotherapist

          Geneva, Switzerland

          In the first lines, I would like to share my enthusiasm and gratitude. Being able to read and, even, add my professional (in Jungian terms, Persona-filtered) and intimate (Ego-complex driven) opinion on one publication that tackles the major metaphysical and cosmological question. I dare to add that Leibniz’s famous quote2 is also psychological dilemma, in ontological way, as human-individual and human-species.

          This review will follow the narrative Drob’s article.

          1.1

          Drob gives an overview of philosophical attempts to answer why there is something instead of nothing. However, although mentioned, the teaching of the Neoplatonists stay unexplored which is, in my opinion, a great pity. Their extensive work and their semantics could be an interesting addition to the next chapters of this publication. Staying with “The Good” of Plato, there is a bias. Moral quality of the word “good” is probably a way to connect with Leslie’s axiarchism. Pleroma3 (πλήρωμα, old Greek word meaning „fullness„) is less human, social and ethical context- related term. It is fulness3, so the chapter on evil (ch. 4.1) becomes superfluous. 

          Drob says early in his text: “For example, if the origins of existence are to be found in its actualization (i.e. its “beginning” is to be found in its “end”) does this count as a complete explanation or does it simply leave us with a “circle” that itself needs to be explained?

          Here, my comment goes on the amplification of the term “actualization”. “Its “beginning” is to be found in its “end”” sounds as simplification and I am not sure if the author was searching for this impact of that word. Presuming that the end defines the origin of existence demands the realization of the end, the possibility of the end or finality of the end. Nevertheless, the actualization is ever-going process (for example, our world exists until it is not ruined (yet, but it is another story)). Being complete or a circle, as Drob wonders, are the questions which comes after we test the actualization as process and not as the finite action in time.

          1.2

          Since I am not native English speaker, I got “stuck” immediately with the “why” chapter.  My first thoughts went to ancient languages. Old Greek has four words for why: λαμά (what – why), τά (why), τίη (why-wherefore) and τίπτε (why pray)4.

          In my mother tongue, serbo-croat, radi cega (what for) and zbog cega (because of what) are detailed versions of why (zasto) question. Leibniz asked the famous question in German: Warum ist überhaupt etwas2? Heidegger’s amplification sounded like this: Warum ist überhaupt Seiendes und nicht vielmehr Nichts2Warum comes from old German wär umbe (wo (where) and um (in order to, around) (https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/warum). French translation is „Pourquoi il y a plutôt quelque chose que rien?“5 where «pourquoi” means literrally «what for». This long digression comes to accentuate different etymology and different meaning in different languages, different contexts and different syntaxes. Claiming that warum (why) is more important than überhaupt (at all, in general, overall) sounds as another rational choice of the author. Differentiating causation from purpose is important but the accent could have been given on overall (in general) which does not necessary includes the outliers. Similarly, for Heidegger’s modification: why beings at all and not only more of nothing, could be analyzed from the angle of more of nothing versus one (nothing, as opposite to one being or more beings).

          However, the adverb why includes the temporal dimension. Drob does not devote enough of his writings to this aspect which could be expected since he writes in the following pages about the privileges of temporal order. Why implies that two events do not share same temporal coordinates, one thing precedes another. Even in mathematical terms: 11 + 11 = 22, the operation comes before the result (from the human brain angle, in atemporal and a-moral sense they are Abelian groups).

          One remark: the example with the bus to Florida – it seems that the “how” and “why” got mixed unless there would be an answer: “Because buses to Florida exist” which would imply that being possible is reason per se without saying why exactly to Florida and not somewhere on the way to it. In parallel, the answer is product of concrete thinking, the answerer either is not able to use the abstract thinking or consciously manipulates the answer. In any case it is not the appropriate example of adult abstract thinking. Only a being with abstract thinking capacities (thinking about linear time included) can answer to this “why”.

          Another note: There is interesting fans’ theory on Adams’42. In program language ASCII, the asterix is represented as 101010, or 42 and the asterix means different things for different people, like joker in cards or like “whatever you want it to be”. Adams never confirmed this but I feel there is a tiny place for this story in this review.

          I will add a few lines to the interesting Drob’s discussion on the God hypothesis. God needs sentient beings in order to incarnate itself. What does it mean? Can we see God as an object of its own evolution, God as dynamic process, God who survive through changes (inner or outer), God as vulnerable in linear time? In Jungian analytical language this could be translated: is there an individuation of Self? Or is linear (Chronos) time-bound Self only a facet of The Self? 

          1.3

          I like the start of thought experiment by postulating that “nonexistent x can be a condition or foundation for existence”. This is quite analogous to the transformation of inorganic material into organic life. I wonder if we tackle here alchemist transformation. Nonexistent/not alive needs “electric charge” or “conjugation/coagulation” to become existent/alive. In modern cosmology, we can associate to the entropy jump. This jump, does it happen spontaneously/progressively? Is catalyzed by some additional agent?

          If we follow the same analogy, does linear time starts existing from the moment we measure it or it has its objective existence? Or is linear time the effect of (one or many, primordial or later) entropy jump or time is related to the catalyzer of the entropy jump? Drob’s thoughts on this are welcome.

          2.1

          In the cartographic analogy, I would disagree with Drob. Indeed, his conclusions are valid when he writes “these gaps represent “nothing whatsoeves” as they have no interpretation within the map”. What he does not accentuate is the necessity of these gaps. Their exact distribution, abundance and form are not important (they do not exist as such), but their approximative existence is necessary to make the globe round. This reflects the Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle: exact places are not defined but there is a cloud of their possibilities. 

          2.2

          In this section before we can claim anything, we need to define our own existence or at least the limits of our knowledge about our existence. It seems that Drob chooses some of our reality manifestations as hypotheses and some other as facts/axioms. Although he does fine job with discussing the most of them it is not always clear why some terms are worth of explaining and the other are taken per se.

          Drob cites Leslie who argues about the potential in the emptiness as pre-existence. I cannot omit the comparison with Jungian theory of archetypes6. In addition, I wonder why there are no citations or remarks of Jung’s heritage on this topic. His extensive and systematic studies on Plato, Neoplatonism, Gnosticism, European mysticism and alchemists (and from 1929 on the oriental culture and religion) are profound well of knowledge about the preexisting ideas, the concept of eidos Platonian and its application in the study of human psyche7. Even more, in his seminal publications, Jung insists on the difference between archetypes and archetypal representations/images. “Leslie calls such pre-existent facts, i.e., facts that hold regardless of whether anything has existed, does exist, or will ever exist, “synthetic necessities.” They are not “logical” or “mathematical truths” as they require some form of at least hypothetical experience to secure their validity—but they are necessities, nonetheless.” – these lines fit well with numerous definitions of archetypes by Jung8.

          The following sentence “Even in a blank, it would still be true that if there were a world it would be good for it to manifest love, beauty, wisdom, etc.” is subjective opinion. Surely, as human beings, we tend to support this line of thinking but the declarations on what is good and what is not, are dependent on the claimer’s position, context, history, aims. History thought us cruelly that good intentions are far from good realizations. 

          2.3

          Similarly, Drob argues that “we cannot conceive of a universe where the values of truth, compassion, beauty, freedom, and wisdom are vitiated “. I do not understand what are the bases for this statement. Does Drob talk about social values or natural values? I wish to ask, making me imagine the second slide of the psychopharmacological power-point presentations, what are his conflicts of interest.  Here, it is irrelevant to what religious, spiritual or philosophical tendencies he adheres, but it is essential to accentuate that our ethics is based on our ecosystem and our linear time. It would pretentious to be sure what are good (or any) intentions of Others if there is no empathy (in the sense of seeing the world from entirety of other’s being) for different Other.

          For example, if we had lived on the planet that has very limited resources maybe religion would have been replaced by the scientific explanations, and what is wrong or what is good would be expressed in the statistics relevant to the survival of the species?

          2.4

          The author’s illustration of his claims reminds me on James Hillman’s “Soul’s Code”9 hypotheses. However, it is not taking in account the psychological marshmallow test10. I have always wondered if this test would be replicable in different cultures, especially in societies with ongoing wars, poverty or environmental crises (or where these factors changed significantly during the longitudinal study). Playing safe versus risking is dependent on many factors. Therefore, the potential is differently actualized depending on time (Chronos and Käiros time; linear and opportune now time). If we put this into to cosmological perspective, Now is not equal to Atemporality and is function on linear time (dependent in the sense that Kaïros is the crossover of Atemporality and Chronos). The value of Now is that it is actualized. The attention of atemporality is focused on it. But does this Now has potential of End, or just “pre-beginning” had it? Or in Hillmanian terms, does archetype contain and/or overwhelm all possible outcomes of its actualization?

          Teilhard’s Omega11 principle “privileges” Omega in front of Alpha. Indeed, paying the same respect to all “letters from alpha to omega” sounds more in concordance with the red thread of this paper.

          2.5

          Here, I would be grateful for the author’s differentiation between the values and archetypes. I believe that he refers to archetypes while anthropomorphizing them and focusing only on human moral aspects.

          Drob’s accentuates linear time (one I call in this review Chronos, in concordance with Ancient Greek perspective on different times) – however I am wondering if Kaïros (or Kaïros x Chronos) would be more appropriate.

          I am not sure if this hierarchy or dualism (mathematical/scientific facts versus moral/aesthetics values) is necessary. Why (again one why, here clearly in the sense where from) the writer of these lines separates fundamentally these representations? And speaking of representations vs. potentials, does Drob think that the idea (potential, eidos) of time exists in the Atemporal? 

          In Taoism, there is a verse: “We shape clay into a pot, but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want”12. Emptiness gives the purpose. Maybe archetypes are axes (just like geometry coordinate systems axes, no matter here how many axes there are) used to be “filled” with values. Nothing does exist in this situation so Leibniz’s question loses meaning because Nothing is something. However, for the sake of not “playing smart” in front of great minds of Heidegger and Leibniz, let us stay with nothingness. Can we differentiate static nothingness and dynamic nothingness? Static would be absolute absence of entropy, of movement, of time, ultimate individuality. Dynamic would be nothingness that it (overall – überhaupt) nothing in its totality, but is composed of dynamic game of appearing and disappearing. Appearances and anti-appearances (sounding as antimatter? or as spectrum of archetype differing in frequency, amplitudes, parity) make duality, duality makes movement and tim. Time could exist only collectively, in duality. If we look through Drob’s paper’s prism: the origin of universe is value with potential of incarnation. 

          3.1

          After all being written, Drob comes back to reason (spirit, mind) and I wonder why is necessary to promote one above another. Rather, I would suggest based on very nice paragraph on Hegel, that macroworld is not the consequence of the microworld (quantum reality) but they are intertwined through their parallel existence, duality and time dimensions. The author hypothesizes that mind without values is unreachable, but he doesn’t explore the opposite. Values without mind are not actualized. They are part of the same but not being equal to same gives them possibility of movement.

          Since we tackle panpsychism, it is worth of accentuating that it does not mean equal distribution of (un)consciousness but its equal total sum.

          When talking about values, Drob insists only on moral categories. In my opinion, it is more various than this, and, probably, it is connected to the interaction of two individual entities plus time. If two, let us imagine, elementary primordial virtual particles (annihilating in any moment when they are in contact with their counter-particle) “meet”, they can have interactions that we can symbolically name or associates to human languages terms such as: mother, separation, division, comparison, bigger, provenance, solidarity etc. (in fact all that those elementary particles can do one to another).

          I would be happy to hear how Drob differentiates value from information. New information which comes as surprise is known as entropy13 – can we claim the same for values. What is relationship between values and entropy? Is entropy related to the amplitudes or other parameters of values?

          Following the McGilchrist’s studies on attention, Drob concludes that “attention directed by “value” causes the cosmos to appear as cosmos”, adding the causation to purpose of values in the existence of Uni/Multiverse. However, attention happens when Chronos gets its opportunity (its opportune moment Kaïros). Maybe universe exists because 0 (nothingness) is individuality and individuality gives rise to duality (0 is 1, 1 is 2, cf. Maria’s axiom14).

          3.2

          I am not enough familial to Leslie’s work, so why “shouldness” and not “couldness”? It seems that we leave the potentiality and we orientate toward predestination; in other words, free will is not dual with destiny.

          3.3

          It is not clear if many (or all) values are engaged at the same time, and if that impacts the outcome, as well what is the relationship of different values. Drob comes back in this short paragraph which could (not to say should) be more elaborated to the “freedom” of potential (again could/should). If something is potentially possible, is it “obligatory” to act on it and if so, are we again in the cartographic metaphor (or taoistic bowl) where the form is various but purpose is stable?

          In my view, combinations of values make time and incarnate those values, thus values are on and off and only their relationship/communication/contact/awareness make them exist. In other words, Existence is (an)Other with me. Previously mentioned Shouldness allows the movement and what is hortatory is the keeping the sum neutral (therefore Evil and Good, as Drob simplifies, are both in the spectrum of Same).

          The last sentence of this paragraph: “… the universe, indeed the entirety of existence, is conditioned by the general principle that provides the reason for its existence, the potential maximal realization and development of value in each of its multifarious forms” comes after the analogy with human life making me perplexed about the author’s view on the end of Uni/Multiverse. Does he suggest end of values or their Completeness?

          4.1

          As much I have enjoyed with Drob’s concept of open teleology, the section on Evil brings one too anthropomorphizing view on the universe, which is not necessary in this paper, except if for spiritual/religious reasons. The gnostic concept of Pleroma gives quite satisfying response to this query. Mixing the Good of Plato with moral good seems too weak analogy, as ethics and axiology are not the same disciplines.

          It is difficult not to make references to the excellent book of Jung “Response to Job”15 which is dedicated to these questions, especially to limits et risks du principle privatio boni.

          The author writes: “This claim does not require our world to be perfectly or even largely good, only that it be, as we have seen, an arena within which value and meaning can be realized and maximized.” Again, the word maximized seem to be correlated with his intrinsic (and definitely highly recommendable in our world) system of values. However, the universe, even if considers panpsychic, is not necessarily habited by only sentient beings in the form of human (and even if this would be true, the place on the top of the ethical pyramid does not seem to belong to homo sapiens). Why not instead of maximize aim to right measure and right tensions?

          Similar goes for the elaboration on death. Why not aiming to harmony, compensation and alliance with Chronos? Too much of anything (even with + as is prefix) is not the same as good. Right measure has some breaks buttons.

          4.2

          Here again there is a rigid binarity: good versus evil (it would be interesting TV debate between one mother lion and one old antelope). I am surprised that questions of justice (fairness) and justice (accuracy) (in French justice and justesse) are not having some space that would be appropriate in this paragraph.

          In. the same direction, I am wondering if there is a bias that something means better than nothingSomething is maybe only a visible part of All? Maybe the fluctuations and danse of nothing constitutes the dark matter? Maybe the fact that in this universe it seems that we are matter and not the antimatter does not give a bad name to the antimatter.

          Again, I am not sure from what position Drob claims that death is disvalue. This looks as bias of individual versus collective. Death is part of collective process which we do not like on an individual level, but again we cannot privilege one without giving space to not one.

          4.3

          There is one very nice and highly complicated paper by Lahav and Neemeh16, in which they mathematically defend the hypothesis that the designer/higher consciousness is not viable idea since it makes fail the zombie paradox.

          In this paragraph I miss a bit of discussion on relationship between entropy and enthalpy in big (open or not?) systems. I value (pun intended) panpsychism hypothesis and for that reason (as here I am biased) it could give it a favor to observe it through the lenses of the economics of entire system (uni/multiverse).

          4.4

          Drob let us think that sentient beings (and we take ourselves as their representatives) are holders of values. Here I do not find very strong arguments in favor of anthropomorphism. I do not think that it puts in the peril the Drob’s major take home message. The answer and the question are related but why discarding different ecosystems or different forms of (un)consciousness (sky objects, fluctuations of particles, different life forms)?

          5.1

          Answer is the fact that we (whoever we is) are capable of asking the Question.

          Nevertheless, can we allow different means of asking (without words)? And is it possible that only more than one is needed to “ask”? One and only cannot reach this dilemma? (And again, one is two, as in the Axiom of Marie14). When (while accepting all time dimensions spectrum of this word) is enough of asking-answering?

          5.2

          Drob finishes with Wittgenstein’s advice on human remaining silent in the great mystical arena – can we add: with capacity of naming (asking)?

          In conclusion, this paper stimulates. Drob’s thoughts and dilemmas are contagious. They contribute to this exciting domain. Capacity to ask, capacity to value, or if I can paraphrase, capacity to react to beauty maybe created uni/multiverse but certainly can save the world.

          References:

          1 Drob S., Why Existence? An Explanation with No Remainder, Qeios, CC-BY 4.0 · Article, May 22, 2023 

          2 Muck, Warum ist überhaupt etwas?, in: Der Glaube der Christen. Ein ökumenisches Handbuch Bd.I, Hg. von Biser, Hahn, Langer. München Stuttgart – Pattloch/Calwer 1999, 217-237. https://www.uibk.ac.at/philtheol/muck/publ/warum_ist.pdf, consultes on June 11th 2023

          3. Jung, C.-G., Psychological Types, CW6, pp. 429

          4 https://www.perseus.tufts.edu/hopper/definitionlookup?type=begin&q=why&target=greek, consulted on June 11th 2023

          5 Prinzipien der Natur und der Gnade n.7, Gerhardt VI, 602

          6 Jung, C.-G., Dialectique du Moi et de l’inconscient, Gallimard, Paris, 1964, coll. Folio essais, 1986, trad. de Die Beziehungen  zwischen dem Ich und dem Unbewussten , Rascher, Zurich, 1933, par le Docteur Roland Cahen – G.W. VII, 287 p.

          7 Delaigue C., Jung et la métaphysique : entre être et non-être, Revue de Psychologie Analytique 2014/1 (n° 3), pages 135 à 149

          8 https://www.cgjung.net/espace/cg-jung/archetypes/, consulted on June 12th 2023

          9 Hillman, J., The Soul’s Code: In Search of Character and Calling, Paperback – August 1, 2017

          10 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_marshmallow_experiment, consulted on June the 10th 2023

          11 Castillo, M., The Omega Point and Beyond: The Singularity Event, American Journal of Neuroradiology March 2012, 33 (3) 393-395

          12 Lao Tseu, Tao Te King, Synchronique, Sagesse poche, 2022, ch. 11

          13 Gray, R.M., Entropy and Information Theory, First Edition, Corrected, Stanford University

          Springer-Verlag, New York, 2000

          14 Jung, C.-G., CW 16, p.207, par. 404

          15 Jung, C.-G., Réponse à Job, Buchet-Chastel, 2009

          16 Lahav N., Neemeh, Z.A:, A Relativistic Theory of Consciousness, Frontiers in Psychology 12 (2022)

          Review

          Jun 12, 2023

          Qeios ID: 2UZGCY

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          Stupnjevi razvoja trougla agresora – žrtve – spasioca

          Road triangle: Lower Dinchope by Mark Hurn is licensed under CC-BY-SA 2.0

          Nulti – Eden:

          U Rajskom vrtu nema trzavica. Čini se da nema žrtvi, da nema agresija, da je nepotrebno biti spašen. Trougao je ignorisan. Možda i postoji, ali je nevidljiv. Nevino je i nežno, ali, zapravo, vidi se samo ono što je lepo. Moguća je patnja od strane onih van Rajskog vrta, čak i od strane stanovnika Rajskog vrta, ali to ne dopire do Svesnog.

          Prvi – zmijski ujed:

          Desi se okidač. Svet se umeša. Ili se umešamo u svet. Nepravda se desi. Harmonija sklizne i trougao se aktivira. Neko se povredi, a neko povredi i neko to vidi, pa želi da nešto uradi po tom pitanju. Ukoliko se sve ovo ponavlja i desi relativno rano, ponekad se zacementira u ulozi – ponekad-žrtva se identifikuje sa stalnom-žrtvom, slićno je i sa ostalima. Žrtva ne voli da je žrtva, ali oseća nepravdu te pozicije i ne menja je, jer čeka da se prepozna od strane drugih šta joj se čini. Agresor nije uvek svestan da je agresor. Žrtva-agresor je deo istog kontinuuma. Ukoliko je Agresor svesno upao u zamku i biti agresor je jedini način preživljavanja, neće biti motivisan da sklizne u žrtvu. Spasilac je najkomplikovaniji, jer je najmanje motivisan da promeni svoju ulogu. Ona je altruistična, korisna i dobro viđena od strane drugih. Takođe, spasilac ne vidi da je deo trougla koji samim postojanjem jednog ugla povlači nastajanje druga dva. drugim rečima, Spasilac da bi bio spasilac i kada nema problema nalazi žrtvu i agresora. Slično je i za druga dva entiteta.

          Drugi – svet je kriv:

          Trougao je nastao, mi smo se našli u ulozi i projektujemo druge dve na ostatak sveta. Ponekad su to projekcije na konkretne osobe, ponekad na društvo ili pojave. U svakom slučaju, mi smo intergrisano – celo biće koje se obojilo bojama jednog tima i vidimo oko sebe sve u spektru boja učesnika igara. Postoje i neki drugi, ali su bezbojno. Takođe, i mi imamo množda više tih trouglova aktiviranih u isto vreme, ali najčešće je jedan onaj prvi i najbolniji.

          Treći – terapijski:

          Ovde se neko javi na terapiju, ili se ne javi, ali ga životne okolnosti nateraju da se preispita validnost i trajanje svoje uloge i boja svog tima. Ovo može biti veliki skok u procesu individuacije, ali takođe može biti opcija nastavka penjanja po merdevinama individuacije ili ostanak, pa i potonuće u regresiju ii status kvo. Mnogima se treća faza nikada ne desi.

          U trećoj fazi, počinje da se pounutrašnjava trougao. Pronalaze se delovi spasioca, žrtve i agresora u sebi. Ja se ne vidi kao intergrisani entitet koji celokupan uleteo u ulogu već kao različiti delovi sa različitim ciljevima, strategijama i načinima prilagođavanja svetu. U terapiji se polagano (i držeći za ruku terapeuta, ali bez uvlačenja njega ili nje u trougao – ukoiko se to oseti, o tme se priča otvoreno) šeta između celokupnog Ja i svih tih trouglića i delova trouglića Ja. Namera ovog postupka je da se razmrsi, osnaži, utka i ponovo isprelete (ali uz svesnost) ja sa sa svim svojim delovima.

          Četvrti – jedan drukčiji vrt:

          Ponovo smo na početku, ai nismo. Kada se terapija ustalila i Ja se konsolidovalo, vraća se u svet koji se više ne ignoriše. Postoje zmije, ujedi i disharmonije. trouglovi se uočavaju, anticipriaju se moguće reakcija ukoliko s epomalo sklizne, ali sveukupno vidi se šta se dešava i šta više nije neophodno za nastavak svesnog i harmoničnog života. Trouglovi postoje, ne ignorišu se, ali se ne upada u njig. Ne uzimaju se boje njegovog tima, ostaje se bezbojan iz ugla trougla, ali rajski šaren iz ugla osnaženog Ja.

          Da bi smo nešto zaštitili, obično treba da osetimo povezanost s tim što štitimo

          Lakše štitimo ono što je naše. Naravno, ne mislim ovde na posesivnost i objektivno pripadanje, već naše u smislu nečega što prepoznajemo, sa čim moćemo da se povežemo. Antropomorfiziramo planetu, životinje, oblake, istorijske periode, grupe – dajemo naše obličje nečem što nije Ja kako bi bio nešto kao Ja.

          I kada je već tako, zašto ne bismo to iskoristili u nešto korisno? Ako nam je potrebno da se identificiramo kako bismo voleli (projekcija na kojoj počiva zaljubljivanje i udruženost), zašto se ne identifikujemo više sa Zemljom, na primer? Ukoliko je, zbilja, doživljavamo kao deo Nas, možda ćemo je i voleti i, samim tim, štititi više? Zvuči jednostavno, ali nije, jer ni ljudska bića nisu jednostavna. Ni kada se volimo (sami sebe) nije baš da se volimo (videti pod ljubav je i volenje i ne volenje, slobodan izbor nevolenja kako bismo se prepustili volenju). A sami prema sebi imamo kompleksna osećanja. I to u pravom smislu reči kompleksna – naša Psiha sazdana je od kompleksa, nekih malih univerzalnih jezgra (koje postoje od početka života, ako ne i pre) okruženih i osnaženih psihičkom energijom. Dakle, ako pođemo od samoljubavi koja nije uvek sasvim jasna u svom polaritetu i na to se nadovežemo shodnoj ambivalentnosti samozaštite, sasvim je jasno da već sami sa sobom nismo uvek u akciji samospašavanja. Kako da zaštitimo ljudski rod na Zemlji, ili biosferu ili sve ono što je još manje Ja kad nismo uvek toleratni prema svim delovima Sebe?